girls can't win

'A phenomenon that has plagued women since the beginning of time: women are not independent creatures. Our love lives exist only in the context of a man’s desire. When we make independent decisions, we are subject to a host of derogatory terms. “Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.'

something I read today that articulated perfectly the feeling I've had for a while. have had some long (occasionally boozy) chats with sam, hannah and holly about what it means to be a woman. I feel like I'm repeatedly asking so many questions.. this touched on an answer to one of them. we are constantly made to feel as though we owe something to the world, or more specifically, to men.

BOO-URNS.

It does feel good to have discovered a couple of men recently who can appreciate my piss-take sense of humour. after so many texts from The (last) One, sounding like a little wounded puppy because i was A BIT mean about his sex face and A BIT too quick to mock him from time to time (IN AN AFFECTIONATE WAY, OBVERS) it's cool to find the odd chap with whom my rubbish flirting technique is actually a vague success. or at least doesn't result in loads of confused-face smileys or the popular conclusion 'you're evil'. no i'm not, you just need to man up, that's all.